Problem
In a house for a small family, it is the relationship between children and adults which is most critical.
Solution
Give the house three distinct parts: a realm for parents, a realm for the children, and a common area. Conceive these three realms as roughly similar in size, with the commons the largest.
Related Patterns
… according to The Family (75), each nuclear family ought to be a member household of a larger group household. If this is not possible, do what you can, when building a house for a small family, to generate some larger, possible group household, by tying it together with the next door households; in any case, at the very least, form the beginning of a House Cluster (37).
Treat the house, like every house, as a distinct piece of territory - Your Own Home (79); build the three main parts according to the specific patterns for those parts - Common Areas at the Heart (129), Couple’s Realm (136), Bed Cluster (143) and connect the common areas, and the bed cluster according to the Children’s Realm (137) …
Alexander, Christopher. A Pattern Language: Towns, Buildings, Construction. Oxford University Press, 1977, p. 381.